I don’t have a pretty way to say this–so here it goes–Failure means nothing. It’s just a scary word for saying that something didn’t work out, you learned, or you tried something.
I was with a company for on and off for about eight years. And towards the end, it was very clear that it was time to move on…but I held on about six months too long. I was working full time AND running Styled by E. —it was all just too much—something had to give. And to be honest, I let my work as a Visual Merchandising Manager slip. I prioritized my business, which put some of my colleagues in a tough spot. It was messy when I quit. I hurt some feelings. Did I learn a ton? YEP! And was it the right decision, 100%. But some would say it was a failure
This one is so embarrassing for me. I was super excited about the VIP Styling event in December in partnership with Nordstrom. But the day before the event, we evacuated our house. So I canceled the event. I completely failed. And guess what? I’m OK!!! It has a magical way of working out.
2017 was supposed to be the year that I’ve got the best body ever. Well that did not happen. I actually ended up gaining weight, being stressed out and not fulilling on that promise to myself. I think I maybe exercised in a real workout class 15 times all year long. Yep. Fail. 🙂
Oh my gosh this one is painful! For the Fall Wardrobe Reset in September, I invested in Facebook Ads as part of my marketing strategy. I knew that I wanted to fill the wardrobe reset and I LOVED my video. I was sure some ads would help—well….$700 later I had a whole bunch of leads… But not one single one converted.
This one is painful too. I partnered with an ethical clothing company into 2017 and part of the agreement was that I was going to take pictures in one of their dresses and post it. Well… That did not happen. The dress didn’t fit and I didn’t post it. And instead of the back and forth of getting a new size, I really quite literally dropped the ball.
In starting 2017 I knew it was going to be a big year. So I set some goals that would reflect that. Let me just tell you that I did not hit my financial goal of 2017. Did I learn along the way hell yes. Am I making money passively like I wanted to? Nope. Am I on the right track? Yep. I sure am. I still failed to hit that mark.
Throughout college I worked my ass off and attended a community college for the first two years—basically, I did all these things to graduate with almost no debt. I drove a little civic for most of my adult life and a NEVER (heaven forbid! *insert sarcasm*) had credit card debt. This year was different. I bought a car. I expanded my business (actually, I should mention, both my husband and I have expanded our businesses like crazy this year). And now for the first time, I will probably have some credit card debt. I’m learning. But oh my gosh, this would be an UTTER failure for me two years ago.
The story doesn’t stop here, my friends. These “failures” are actually not failures at all. They are lessons, they are growth, they are trying things that didn’t work out, they are investing, they are learning to trust myself.
What is also hidden in these failures is a crazy amount of successes. I quit my job—while it was a messy process—I gained freedom AND a business/life that is so insanely satisfying, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I took on debt—and I drive my favorite thing in the entire world (my car that I’m obsessed with and thank God for every day). I took on more business expenses—and I hired the most amazing coach ever.
So my friends, here’s to failing more. To trusting yourself more. To saying yes. To letting go of self-judgement and embracing our failures are opportunities to learn.
All the love in the world,